“Perhaps the biggest mistake I made in the past was that I believed love was about finding the right person. In reality, love is about becoming the right person. Don’t look for the person you want to spend your life with. Become the person you want to spend your life with.”
“I opened my mouth, almost said something. Almost. The rest of my life might have turned out differently if I had. But I didn’t.”—Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner (via amargedom)
“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”—C. JoyBell C. (via flame)
like,,,i dont even want to be filthy rich with two mansions and three houses in three different countries and a private plane thats just egocentrical i just want to eat good fresh food, have a small apartment in a lovely city and the stability to travel thats all i want
“One day it just clicks… You realise what is important and what isn’t, you learn to care less about what other people think of you and care more about what you think of yourself. You realise how far you have come and you remember thinking that things were such a mess they’d never recover and then you smile. You smile because your truly proud of the person you have fought to become.”—
“You must be the person you have never had the courage to be. Gradually, you will discover that you are that person, but until you can see this clearly, you must pretend and invent.”—Paulo Coelho
(via minuty)
i really am sick of this “immigrant parent = martyr” stereotype when in reality, a healthy portion of these immigrant parents take out their frustrations on the children they don’t even fully nurture most of the time yet expect them to do an adults job without any form of thanks, no offense. like most immigrant parents that i know push their children to the emotional brink while not allowing them access to any sort of mental health professional or even validating to the child that YES THIS IS A SHITTY SITUATION UR IN IM SORRY it’s always about the parents & about the parents pain and about the parents lives and about the parents drama. about about about about everyone … except for the child/children who are expected to give up everything even things they don’t actually have, for the parents “honor” the family’s “honor” the “honor” of the people back home & it’s like …… enough with the single narrative. it seems like immigrant parents work hard but immigrant children are like gaslighted & manipulated for literally all of their lives & guilt tripped into situations long past healthy expiration dates
I get your point and yes, I’ve witnessed this myself in my own life. But can we please stop talking about immigrants (parents, children, whatever) as one general group? This does not represent the experience of “immigrant children” it represents the experience of a group of immigrant children. Which is not to say that there is no validation in what you’re saying but it does not apply to the whole population. Similarly the experience of immigrant parents are also not the same.
“No human being is illegal.”—Elie Wiesel, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize in 1986, author of Night, and survivor of the Auschwitz, Buna, and Buchenwald concentration camps. (via caitrionabalfe)
